You’re probably wondering why I’m harping on the sexual revolution that happened some forty seven years ago, when we should be focusing on how to turn on our e-switch, circa 2008! No, it's not to confuse, or take you on a puzzling history session, it's simply because when we delve on the erogenous expanse, 'assertion' is a quintessential aspect of the entire sexual game. As women, especially, we’ve always kind of worked overtime trying to figure out how to turn on our men, however it's time to make ourselves the cynosure of our man's eyes during a hot session in bed and tell him what would make our toes curl, leave us in a trance and is the way to go on a fantastic mind-numbing ride in bed.

For the uninitiated, erogenous zones are the areas of the body that arouse sexual desire. However, before you even begin to turn your switch on you need to know what it is and go on a journey of self-revelation. Yes, we are giving and passionate but we have as many areas to be worked upon as our man has, so why elude ourselves of the orgasmic delights. Once you have indubitably established what clicks for you, get jiggy with him and assert yourself while you’re at it.

The genitals are the most obvious erogenous zones; however the biggest sensory organ for both men and women is the skin itself, especially the inner thigh area, the neck, the breasts and the nipples. Well, we’re not going to be able to identify every last erogenous zone in the body but since it’s our 11th anniversary, and we’re celebrating, we decided to list the top 11 to help you celebrate too!
CAUTION: Try at the risk of satisfying your own carnal inclinations.

1. TONGUE TWISTER:
Although kissing is perhaps the most basic action when you are getting it on with someone it's also the most intimate expression of love which actually finds its origin in early Indian history. Kamasutra that dates to 1500 B.C lists a variety of techniques for kissing. Mélange and passion is the key to great kissing. A French kiss is what really gets Indrani, 25, a marketing professional to almost yelp with pleasure. Indrani says, "It's silly, but for me it's important for a man to know how to kiss really well, I hate the kind who think that thrusting their tongue down my throat and chewing on my lips is what turns me on. I like a slow sensual kiss where, when our tongues meet it should almost seem like they are slowly trying to get to know each other, unlike times when it feels like they are being violated or my lips are being unnecessarily bruised." To be drowned in an onslaught of sensations, when you are beginning to get your lip locking act together, make sure you lightly brush your tongue over his to moisten them.

The French kiss is an open-mouth kiss, but do not lunge in with your lips agape like you're going to eat them; instead, open your lips very slowly. If you were learning to speak French you would probably start with the basics, vocabulary and grammar, before trying to write poetry. Well, the French kiss is like the poetry of kissing, and before you can be good at it, you have to master the closed-mouth kiss. If you and your partner seem to be enjoying the openmouth kiss, slowly try to open your mouth a little bit more and gently push your tongue a little farther into his mouth. The tongue is very sensitive, and the mere act of touching your partner's tongue with your own will be very pleasant and stimulating for each of you. Do not stick your tongue too far into the mouth, it’s a big turn-off. Instead, just gently and playfully touch tongues. Rome wasn't built in a day, nor was the French kiss, guide him through it and take it slow and work on it. Breathe; forgetting to actually breathe is one of the most common French kissing error. Once you have gotten over the initial anxiety of it all, just cuddle into your lover's arm and let your tongues twist, turn and get to know each other.

2. TITILLATING THE NECK:
If psychologists are to be believed then body art, piercing and adornment are primarily a result of our prurient manifestations. The neck amongst them is a highly erogenous and an extremely important part of the female anatomy. Remember to direct him to moist his tongue before he gets lost necking you. Communication is paramount, if you want your E-zones to work for you. A lot of women complain that necking or hickies are more pain than pleasure. Soumitra Dey, 20, a college student says that her boyfriend usually leaves hickies on her neck as a stamp of authority. Hey, but who wants blood thirsty monsters for lovers, a woman's most sensitive and attractive erogenous zone, needs tender kisses, using the areas behind the ears for extra stimulation. Tell him to start out gentle and take it to another level by going harder and wilder to light that fire of passion within you. Some think only the nape of a woman’s neck is an erogenous zone (that spot at the back of your neck, dead center, at the base of your hairline) but for most women the entire neck is incredibly sensitive to stimulation. Direct him to run his fingers gently along the neck and plant kisses. It's guaranteed that you shall enjoy every nibble of it.

3. NAVEL NYMPH:
Baring the midriff has been fashionable since archaic times. While this is acceptable when one is wearing a sari, the western world has taken to it only now, with low slung jeans and piercings becoming commonplace. Men find the stomach and navel extremely arousing. Get a bowl of fresh strawberries and cream and keep it next to your bed, make your guy place the cream dipped strawberry on your navel and lick it off while nibbling on the strawberry. This is a sure fire way of sending shivers down your spine. Niharika Sharma, 31, and a lawyer by profession says, "I come home and my boyfriend is usually waiting to take me in his arms and sweep me off my feet, but it's never without any foreplay, and cream and fresh fruits are usually waiting by the bedside table." Who said sex kills hunger?